Asking your girlfriends father for her hand in marriage is an act which means different things to different people. If you think it is tradition, a trend or it might please your sweetheart, there are something that you need to know before mentioning the subject with her dad.
Take into account that your words hold a lot of power. There is a big difference between asking for permission and asking for his blessing. You need to practice the right words with a family member or your friend in advance so that you will be ready to express your feelings and wishes without stumbling over them. It is however essential to be true to yourself in whatever you are going to say.
The first important thing is to find out what she thinks and if this is something that she really wants you to do. If you are not going to ask her directly since you want the proposal to be a surprise, you can ask her friends or siblings. One woman might not be happy with the idea of asking for her fathers permission while the other might be impressed.
If possible, you should meet her parents a few times before you decide that you want to marry her. You have to know them well. When you decide to then ask for his blessings, it will be easier since you will have already established a relationship with him.
Choose the right moment to ask the question. Timing is absolutely everything. Try and talk to her dad when he is in a good mood and at ease. Although this might be out of your control, think of a time when he is not busy. Taking to him after he has had a tiresome day at work is not the right approach.
Sit down with him man to man and then express your feelings for his daughter. The best way to start the conversation is by telling him how much you love and admire the daughter. Let him know how much she means to you and then mention some specific traits that you love about her. Since he is the one that raised her, you will be complimenting him at the same time.
Explain your wish to marry her daughter. Inform him that you understand the seriousness of the commitment and that being able to spend the rest of your life with her will make you the happiest man in the world.
Assure him that you will take good care of his daughter. His father has been the man in her life and taken care of her since she was a baby and only wants the best for her. He needs to know that he is giving away his daughter to someone that will love and take care of her as he has. Ask for his blessing and support in you asking for his daughters hand in marriage.
If you say the right words and prove your worth to her father, she will be happy to give you his blessings.
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